Angry Writing Advice: Show, Don’t Tell

I know all y’all writers have heard of “show, don’t tell.” And if you haven’t, then sit the hell down and listen.

What does “show, don’t tell” mean?

It means exactly what it says. SHOW, don’t TELL. Show your readers the afternoon sunlight filtering through the canopy. Don’t tell your readers about your stupid ass setting.

For example:

Afternoon sunlight filtered through the canopy and settled on the bright red leaves piled over the ground.

is better than:

It was autumn and afternoon in the middle of a forest.

No one wants read that boring ass shit.

Does “show, don’t tell” apply to character development?

Hell yeah, it does! Remember that story you read where the author just took a shit over their own character? They didn’t even know they were doing it, but they did. They took a huge, steaming info dump all over their character.

Exhibit A:

He didn’t like reading the paper because nothing good ever happened in the world, and he much preferred his own world where no one else could bother him. Besides, there was nothing else he needed in his life other than his dog, Cupcake.

“But what’s wrong with Exhibit A?” I’ll tell you what the hell is wrong. I’m drowning in your huge info dump, and now, I need a shower and antibiotics.

Exhibit B (the better Exhibit A):

The paper sat untouched atop the worn dining table. He glanced at the headline, “Girl Kidnapped from College Campus During New Year Celebration,” then frowned and turned away. A black poodle lay at the foot of his lumpy, red couch. ‘Cupcake’ was scribbled in pink marker across a metal tag hanging from the dog’s collar–the script squiggly and uneven, as if a child had written it.

Exhibit A didn’t put the reader in the scene. It was flat and shitty, and made me want to take a nap. Exhibit B was better because it put the reader in the moment and gave us glimpses into the character without ever explicitly saying anything about him or his past. That is SHOWING.

I think I get “show, don’t tell,” but how do I know when I’m showing, not telling?

Here’s a list of questions you should go through when you’re unsure if you’re showing or telling:

– Are you questioning if you’re showing or telling?

– Do you feel like you’re not in the scene?

– Are you failing to appeal to the five senses (i.e. sight, smell, taste, touch, hearing)?

– Are you explaining a character’s thoughts more than detailing their actions?

– Are you using a lot of “to be” verbs (e.g. is, am, was, were, be, been, being)?

– Do you have a lot of exposition in a small area?

If you answered “yes” to any of these, you’re probably telling and should take a harder look at your shit.

So don’t take an info dump on your characters. Be nice to them. They don’t deserve your shit, and your readers don’t need to be shit on either.

Show us your world; don’t tell us about your shit.

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Why I’m a Feminist

I’ve seen a recent trend in the media toward discussions concerning gender inequality and feminism, so I feel compelled to speak a bit about it as well–mostly, through my personal experiences.

Firstly, I want to clarify that feminism is not synonymous to misandry. Feminism, by definition, is the belief that all genders should have equal rights and opportunities. Misandry is the hatred of men. I’m a feminist. I’m not a misandrist. I believe that whether you’re a man, woman, both, neither, or another gender entirely, you are entitled to equal rights and opportunities.

I’m a feminist because I experienced sexualization and objectification every day–starting at the age of six when a boy told me I should wear girlier clothes to impress him.

I’m a feminist because magazines, advertisements, films, tv shows, news broadcasts, and every media in between told me I had to be skinny, pretty, quiet, soft, nice, and obedient in order to be loved.

I’m a feminist because I was told that I had to wear dresses and skirts, but they couldn’t be too short because then I was a slut.

I’m a feminist because male strangers say I should have stayed like this:

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And not look like this:

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Or this:

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Regardless of how I want to look or what makes me feel comfortable.

I’m a feminist because at the age of twelve I was sexually harassed or assaulted multiple times a day. Then when I told people about it, they said, “Boys will be boys,” as if that justified being treated as less than a human being.

[Edit: I use the legal definition of “sexual assault,” which is sexual touching without consent. NOT RAPE. If I talk about rape, I’ll use the term “rape.” Sorry if I concerned or confused anyone.]

I’m a feminist because my best friend was nearly beaten to death for being both feminine and gay. Because he was called “pussy” and “bitch” and “weak.” And I realized the worst insults a man can receive are ones tantamount to being called a woman.

I’m a feminist because a male friend, whom I trusted and cared for, attempted to rape me when I refused to sleep with him after “tricking him with mixed signals.”

I’m a feminist because the first questions anyone asked me after a sexual assault were “Did you lead him on?” “What were you wearing?” “Why were you there?”

I’m a feminist because men who suffer domestic abuse are almost invisible in the media, or worse, they’re blamed for not being “manly” enough.

I’m a feminist because both men and women participate in everyday misogyny and misandry without knowing it.

I’m a feminist because 60% of my friends, male and female, have been raped at least once in their lifetime and were afraid of either being blamed for the rape or appearing weak.

I’m a feminist because I want to create a world where all genders are equal.

Below are links you should check out on feminism and Emma Watson’s speech at the U.N. about feminism and the HeForShe campaign, which is well worth a watch.

http://www.heforshe.org/

http://usa.everydaysexism.com/

http://www.feminist.com/

 

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Sexual Orientation and Why it Matters

I went missing again. I’m sorry. The past two months, I’ve been dealing with a lot of medical issues, and I’m still dealing with them. (I’m really just fraught with illness 90% of the time.) But since I’m feeling better, I decided to write a post today about the elusive sexual orientation and why it matters.

1. What is sexual orientation?

Sexual orientation, sometimes used interchangeably with “sexuality,” is a personal identification that defines an individual’s sexual or romantic attraction. It has nothing to do with gender identity. If you don’t believe me, refer to my previous post.

2. What are some sexual orientations?

Sexual orientations are hard to define because they exist on a spectrum, but I’ll list some orientations you may or my not be familiar with and define them:

  1. Heterosexuality – the sexual attraction to the opposite gender
  2. Homosexuality – the sexual attraction to the same gender
  3. Bisexuality – the sexual attraction to two or more genders
  4. Pansexuality – the sexual attraction to all genders
  5. Asexuality – the absence of sexual attraction
  6. Polysexuality – the sexual attraction to multiple genders
  7. Demisexuality – the sexual attraction to another with whom one has a strong emotional bond.

There are many more orientations, and variations within each one, of course. Everyone has a different way they want to identify themselves, and you don’t have to label yourself, if you don’t want to. Most people label their orientations simply because they find a sense of community with others who identify similarly.

You may have noticed on my About page that there’s a bunch of jargon about my gender, sexuality, romanticism, and aesthetic. I’ll explain what all these are in this post, and then break down my definition of myself at the end.

3. What’s the difference between sexual orientation and romantic orientation?

Sexual orientation and romantic orientation are often confused, but they’re actually very different things. Sexual orientation deals with sexual attraction. Romantic orientation deals with romantic attraction. You might be sexually attracted to someone, but not romantically attracted to them. Romantic orientations are denoted by a prefix defining the type of attraction. For example:

  1. Heteroromantic – the romantic attraction to the opposite gender
  2. Homoromantic – the romantic attraction to the same gender
  3. Biromantic – the romantic attraction to two or more genders
  4. Panromantic – the romantic attraction to all genders
  5. Aromantic – the absence of romantic attraction
  6. Polyromantic – the romantic attraction to multiple genders
  7. Demiromantic – the romantic attraction to another with who one has a strong emotional bond

People all have different ways in which they define romantic and sexual attraction. There is no right way.

4. What is aesthetic attraction?

Aesthetic attraction is an attraction to appearance without any sexual or sensual desires. Aesthetic is a term most often found in asexual circles, but even non-asexual people can feel aesthetic attraction. Another way to think about aesthetic attraction is “having a type.” For instance, a homosexual man may think another woman is pretty, but he doesn’t have any sexual desires toward her. The following are some aesthetic attractions:

  1. Heteroaesthetic – the aesthetic attraction to the opposite gender
  2. Homoaesthetic – the aesthetic attraction to the same gender
  3. Biaesthetic – the aesthetic attraction to two or more genders
  4. Panaesthetic – the aesthetic attraction to all genders
  5. (I don’t know the term for having no aesthetic. A-aesthetic? Aceaesthetic?)
  6. Polyaesthetic – the aesthetic attraction to multiple genders
  7. Demiaesthetic – the aesthetic attraction to another with whom one has a strong emotional bond

I think you can see the pattern here. The asexual community may also use the term “sensual attraction” to describe the desire to do sensual activities with another, such as cuddling, but this isn’t a widely accepted attraction.

5. What about people who identify as Grey-Asexual (Gray-Ace, Gray-A, Grace)?

Like all sexual orientations, asexuality exists on a spectrum. In fact, The Huffington Post provided a very nice chart you can use here. Being grey-asexual just means that you only experience sexual attraction rarely or under specific circumstances. Demisexuality falls on this spectrum. On the opposite side of asexual is allosexual (sometimes referred to just as “sexual”) where one experiences sexual attraction regularly.

6. So, T.K., what do you identify as?

I’m very open about my queerness. I’ve found the best way to be a voice in my community is to simply be honest about my identity and thoroughly answer any questions that come my way, so I’ll give my full compilation of labels as an example:

“T.K. is a gender fluid, panaesthetic, aromantic demi-pansexual.”

Let’s break this down with what we now know. Gender fluidity is a gender identity, which I explained in my previous post. Panaesthetic is the aesthetic attraction to all genders. Aromantic is the lack of romantic attraction. Demi-pansexuality is actually the combination of two sexualites: panseuxality and demisexuality. Pansexuality is the sexual attraction to all genders.  Demisexuality is the sexual attraction to another after an emotional bond has been formed. This means that I can feel sexual attraction to all genders, but only after I have formed an emotional bond with the person.

 

If you have any questions about sexual orientation, feel free to ask them in the comments.

Also, I cut my hair.

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Embrace the androgyny.

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Gender Identity and Why it Matters

There’s been some controversy about gender identity lately. Laverne Cox, well-known for her role as Sophia Burset in Netflix’s Orange is the New Black, is a transgender woman–meaning she was born biologically male, but identifies as a woman. She plays a transgender woman in OINTB and actively speaks against transphobia. Personally, I love OINTB. I have never seen such a progressive show in…well, never. Not only does it address trangender issues, but homophobia, gender inequality, racism, etc.

As someone who identifies as both gender fluid, gender identity and the controversy over it is very close to my heart, so I’m making this post as a means to clarify some of the misconceptions around gender identity. And don’t worry. I’ll clarify all the jargon I use here.

(I am by no means an expert on this issue. Most of this is from personal experience.)

1. What is gender identity?

Gender identity is simply an individual’s personal concept and/or experience of their gender. Don’t confuse this with “sex.” Sex is an individual’s biological classification, namely male or female.

2. What is “transgender” and “cisgender”?

“Transgender” is a term to describe when someone’s sex and gender identity don’t match in the binary system.

Example: Jane was born male, but she identifies as a woman. She is transgender.

“Cisgender” is a term to describe when someone’s sex and gender identity match in the binary system.

Example: John was born male, and he identifies as a man. He is cisgender.

3. What is a “binary system”?

I’m sure you’ve noticed that a majority of societies have a rigid system of classifying people as either man or woman. This is called a “binary system” of gender classification because there are only two classes (bi- meaning two).

4. What about people who don’t identify as either man or woman?

This is where it gets sort of…wibbly-wobbly-gendy-bendy. I think America and several other societies are becoming more aware that a great many people don’t fit the binary system we have. We would call these people non-binary, and their identities can range from multiple genders (2+) to no gender (agender). And most, if not all, of the people I know in my life–friend or otherwise–have times when they feel less and/or more masculine/feminine. Gender is much more flexible than many of us want or care to acknowledge.

5. What is “genderqueer” and “gender fluidity”?

“Genderqueer” is an umbrella term for people who don’t fit the binary system. This includes everything from multiple-gender to agender. Another term for someone who doesn’t fit the system is “non-binary.”

“Gender fluidity” fits under “genderqueer,” but it’s something of an unusual identity, in that it describes someone who shifts between genders (sometimes from day to day). I identify as gender fluid, which is a strange experience in this society.

Example: One day when I was ten, I rejected all the dresses and skirts in my closet. I didn’t know where my sudden hatred for the clothes had come from, but it just wasn’t ME. So I put on a pair of jeans, a t-shirt, a baseball cap, and started playing soccer with the guys, feeling that I was more masculine than feminine (regardless of what everyone else said). This masculine feeling wouldn’t last. A couple days later, I’d be playing with dolls and trying to figure out make-up. And years later, I still wouldn’t know I was gender fluid because everyone kept relating to me as a woman. Because I have curves, 32 H bra size, and an average 5’6″ height. But there are days when all I want is to wear my baggy cargo pants, a hoodie, no make-up, and sit without crossing my legs. Just as there are days when I want to wear a dress and heels and make my face a work of art.

6. What does gender identity have to do with sexual orientation?

Absolutely nothing. Gender identity concerns an individual’s personal experience of their gender. Sexual orientation concerns an individual’s sexual attraction to another gender. The only reason you would consider both of them at the same time is when you’re determining which gender is attracted to which.

Example:
Jane is a cisgender female. She’s heterosexual, so she’s attracted to men.
John is a transgender female. He is heterosexual, so he’s attracted to women.
Anna is a cisgender female. She is bisexual, so she’s attracted to men and women and (possibly) non-binaries.
Jack is a transgender female. He is pansexual, so he’s attracted to men and women and non-binaries.
Taylor is a transgender male. She is asexual, so she’s not attracted to men nor women nor non-binaries.

Concerning agender people, who don’t identify as any gender, you’d have to ask them their preference for men, women, non-binary, or none. They may relate their orientation to their sex (e.g. an agender male identifying as a homosexual because they’re attracted to men). Of course, if you do ask someone their gender and/or sexual orientation please do so respectfully and in private. Under no circumstances should you out them. Doing so can occasionally be life-threatening.

7. So why all the controversy?

I don’t really have an answer for this. There’s a lot of hate toward us in the genderqueer community. The only reason I haven’t dealt with that hate full-on is because I tend to present myself as a woman and use feminine pronouns for myself. (Mostly because I still haven’t found what I’m comfortable with, and there’s a certain safety that comes with hiding behind my sex.) I have many other genderqueer friends who have dealt firsthand with the hatred toward us. One of my transgender friends was harassed so much in school that she tried to commit suicide and thankfully failed.

There’s something disturbing to others about the idea that someone doesn’t conform to the norm, that they’d dare be different. I really don’t understand this hate. It’s absolutely baffling to me that someone could want to hurt or even kill another human being just because that person isn’t who popular culture says they should be. (I mean, I don’t like asparagus, but I’m not going to go around burning down all the farms that produce asparagus.) And I’m sure this hate runs much deeper than simply being repulsed by things that don’t fit the norm. I’m sure this hate has more to do with the hater’s reluctance to introspect, for fear of finding the thing they hate in themselves.

There was a boy in my school who called me a dyke every time he saw me. I shrugged it off because getting called a dyke was hardly the worst insult I got in my everyday life, and about halfway into the school year, his friend caught him doing the horizontal monster-mash with another guy. The rumors blew up, and eventually I did, too. When two of the guy’s former friends were talking shit to the guy in front of him, I lost my shit and yelled at them for at least two full minutes before they got annoyed with me and stalked off. So there I was with a guy who’d called me a dyke for half a year, and he just stared at me with these sad fucking eyes. I swallowed my pride, gave him information for an LGBT youth center, and traded numbers with him. And we’re still friends to this day.

Everyone’s different and facing their own battles. So don’t make it worse.

 

Bonus:
Here’s a video that sums up gender fluidity quite nicely.

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How to Make a Character (If Conventional Methods Aren’t Working For You)

Everyone’s got a different method for creating characters, and ultimately, you have to find what works best for you. But if charts and graphs aren’t your thing, here’s my unconventional method of making characters.

1. Let the environment shape the character

How a human behaves and thinks is a by-product of the culture in which they were raised (regionally and/or nationally). For example, I believe all of America should have marriage equality, which is a controversial issue regionally and nationally. My parents believe in marriage equality. My region largely believes in it. But if I’d been raised in a household where marriage equality or being anything other than cisgender and straight was wrong, I most likely wouldn’t advocate for marriage equality. Not to say someone’s views can’t change.

Backstory matters. Your character’s identity is essentially a reaction to the culture and set of circumstances they live in. Nothing bothers me more than a character who obviously reflects the writer’s personal beliefs, but the character has no exposure to those beliefs or ideas in their history.

Also, don’t dump the backstory on readers. There’s no reason to drown them in boring text. Be kind. Don’t drown people.

2. Appearance and cultural identity (e.g. ethnicity, race, hair, skin, eyes, etc.)

Firstly, yes, there is a difference between ethnicity and race. Being “black,” is not the same as being “African.” There was once a boy in my high school World History class who did a presentation on the history of slavery. It was fine until he said, “So the African-American slaves were brought from Africa to the French West Indies.” Two things wrong with this. 1) They’re not African-American. They’re African. 2) Not everyone with dark skin is African-American. We are not the only country with people of African descent.

That’s right, America. There are other countries in the world.

Race refers to one’s physical appearance. Ethnicity, on the other hand, encompasses ancestry, language, and culture. Ethnically, I’m 50% Polish, German, and Irish and 50% Vietnamese. Racially, I am three shades of White and half Yellow (it is horrible trying to figure out which bubble to fill in for race). I have semi-squinty eyes and slightly darker than average skin. My hair naturally comes in four different colors: black, brown, blond, and red (I shit you not). I don’t even know what race I am, so I like to say I’m three flavors of vanilla with a hefty scoop of banana ice cream.

Getting back on topic, ethnicity and race are important factors in appearance and the character’s cultural identity. Maybe the character is confused about their race like me because they’re mixed ethnically (or they’re a genetic abnormality and don’t look like the rest of their ethnic community). Maybe they’re an immigrant from a country where blond hair and blue eyes is the norm, and now, they’re surrounded by brown-eyed, black-haired people. Maybe their parents are immigrants, and their home life is drastically different from the culture of the country they now live in.

(Pardon me for using the colloquial “they.” It’s just annoying for you and me to have to write/read “he or she” over and over again. “They” is also an all-encompassing term that includes non-binary genders.)

3. Gender/Sex

There is a difference between gender and sex, too. “Gender” refers to the socially constructed roles of men and women while “sex” refers to the physiological characteristics of men and women. You may have noticed I used the term “cisgender” earlier. That simply means someone’s gender identity matches with their sex. The opposite of “cisgender” is “transgender,” where sex and gender identity do not match. Some people are “non-binary” or “genderqueer.” They identify as neither man nor woman, both man and woman, as genderless, or something else entirely. If you decide to write a transgender or non-binary character, I suggest you research extensively (assuming you’re not familiar with the genderqueer community already). The community might appreciate your effort to make a fictional character to represent them, but if that character represents them badly, you’re setting yourself up to be attacked by people who are already tired of being insulted and oppressed.

5. Sexuality and sexual orientation

If you’ve read my previous post, you know I’m pansexual. This means I’m attracted to all genders, including non-binary, and I’m genderqueer. In short, I’m a pansexual, genderqueer female. This identity plays a huge part in my life, and inevitably, it will play a part in your character’s life. When you’re making your character, it’s important to think about their sexuality and sexual orientation. Are they promiscuous? A virgin? Gay? Do they have a fetish? Do they enjoy sex or avoid it?

Here’s a list of sexual orientations you may or may not have heard of:

  1. Heterosexual – one who is sexually attracted the opposite gender
  2. Homosexual – one who is sexually attracted to the same gender
  3. Bisexual – one who is sexually attracted to their own gender and another
  4. Pansexual – one who is sexually attracted to all genders
  5. Asexual – one who feels little or no sexual attraction
  6. Demisexual – one who only feels sexual attraction when they have a strong emotional connection with someone.

There are more orientations out there that I invite you to explore if you want to make a character who doesn’t conform to heteronormativity–a view that heterosexuality and a binary gender system are the “norm.” Sexual orientation and sexuality are more fluid than many people know or want to acknowledge, and I would love to see more fictional characters who aren’t heterosexual or cisgender.

6.Habits, hobbies, and quirks

We all have our own special something that makes us little, unique snowflakes. Characters are no different. Remember, you’re creating a person. If you don’t feel like this character is real, your readers won’t either. Love your characters, and they’ll love you (most of the time).

Habits, hobbies, and quirks are great ways to demonstrate a character’s personality. If you read about a character who constantly washes their hands–even when clean–you’re going to know something’s up. Maybe they’re mysophobic. Maybe something happened in their past that makes them feel unclean. Either way, you’ve already gotten a glimpse into who they are from their quirk/habit. Just make sure that if you write a character with a psychological disorder, you research that disorder.

Research, research, research.

7. The pitfall

We all know that your hero is supposed to be charismatic, likeable, and driven, right? Screw that.

People are complex, and we all have our faults. Characters are no different. So maybe your hero isn’t charismatic. Maybe they aren’t likeable. Maybe they aren’t driven. That’s just the way they are. This idea that your hero has to have all these qualities (with a bit of faults, of course) is a pitfall. Let your characters have a voice and nature of their own, and they’ll rise to the occasion. People are inherently interesting. I guarantee you can find at least one interesting thing about the most boring person.

Example: Fight Club. The narrator wasn’t charismatic, likeable, or driven in the beginning. He was a messed up SOB start to finish. But interesting. In fact, I bet you’re reading this because you’re frustrated with trying to make your character charismatic, likeable, driven, and [insert adj. from every character guide ever]. I’m not saying it’s bad to have these qualities in a character, but maybe your character just isn’t that way. And that’s okay. Find something interesting about your character and just go with it. Maybe you’ll discover they’re more than you originally thought.

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Coming to Terms with my Sexual Orientation

Sorry I haven’t written a post in forever. First there was finals in May, then I had a couple weeks to relax, and my summer classes start tomorrow. So my blog wasn’t the first thing on my mind. I thought I’d share how I figured out my sexual orientation as an “oh, hey, I’m back; didya miss me?” post.

Just to say outright, I’m pansexual. And now I bet you’re thinking, “What the hell’s a pansexual?” A pansexual is someone who is attracted to all gender-identities and biological sexes. In other words, I swing every direction and play for all the teams–so I suck at baseball. Some of you may be thinking, “But…there’s only men and women.” Biologically, sure, but not everyone identifies with their physiological sex. Some people identify neither as a man nor a woman. And that doesn’t matter to me at all. I discovered this sometime around the age of 13. I’ve had “gender-queer” friends to whom I’ve been attracted, and I’ve also been attracted to people who identify either as a man or woman. Their gender-identity doesn’t affect my attraction to them in the slightest. Needless to say, this caused some problems. I didn’t even know what to call my sexual orientation until two years ago.

At 13, I knew that I was different, but I was pretty good at hiding it. My friends all thought I was straight until high school when I finally came out as bi, and I admitted seventy-five percent of the people I’d dated were not, in fact, male. Since I live in one of the most liberal parts of the country, my friends barely even blinked at my admission. But overtime, I began to notice that–liberal or no–bisexuals are rarely welcome (pansexuals even less so). I’ve been called everything from dyke to clit licker, and that’s just the stuff that doesn’t have to do with my sexuality. I had D-cups and a 24″ waist by the time I was 14, meaning guys thought they could snap my bra, grab my ass, or make other lewd advances at me. The teachers never “saw” it happen, and I got so sick of listening to their BS justifications like: “Boys will be boys;” “It just means he likes you;” “I think you’re overreacting.” So I got good at dislocating wrists in middle school.

When I got to high school, I was bitter, angry, and had a strong no-nonsense policy. To make matters worse, I was closeted because bisexuals were–and still are–attacked from both the straight and LGBT communities. The straight community thought we were whores. The LGBT community thought we were confused whores. And there was this weird idea that the B in LGBT didn’t even exist. I wanted to say, “Hey, look at me existing. Bisexuals aren’t part of the land of fairytales and unicorns.” End of freshman year, I got sick of all of it and came out of hiding. As I said, my friends shrugged and went on with their days, but not everyone was accepting. Those in my GSA (Gay-Straight Alliance) were trying to figure out if I truly was this mystical bisexual or a confused soul in denial of being a lesbian, and the homophobes were accusing me of having threesomes every other day.

I don’t want to give the impression that my time in high school was hell. It really wasn’t. My friends and family were very supportive, and I had long learned how to handle myself. Thick skin and self-imposed patience kept me from trouble–for the most part–and when I left high school early after my sophomore year, it wasn’t because I resented my school. I recognized that high school simply wasn’t for me. So I started college, learned the term “pansexual,” and accepted who I was. I now recognize just how privileged I am to be a young woman who both knows and loves who she is. Coming to terms with my sexuality has taught me acceptance, patience, humility, and compassion. I understand that both the LGBT and straight communities have their reasons for resenting bi- and pan-sexuals. I have the strength not to take insult to heart, but I also understand that I don’t have to tolerate it or let others suffer it.

And in the spirit of this rather gay post, here’s a gay picture I’m drawing:

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Happy Father’s Day! Even if this had nothing to do with fathers… But my dad is awesome and supportive of me, so maybe it is. Love ya, Dad.

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Pitch Slam

If you guys haven’t heard about it, there’s something called Pitch Slam (just started up last month, I think). It’s a contest where a bunch of writers present a 35-word pitch and the first 250 words of the MS to teams of judges who pick their favorite entries and put them up for agents who then make requests for their favorite entries. All last week I was competing in Pitch Slam, and I made it to the agent round!

Here’s a link to my entry:

http://tangynt.wordpress.com/2014/04/29/team-spyder-on-the-off-chance-im-dead/

Hopefully I’ll catch an agent.

Wish me luck!

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